As some of you may know I am writing a blook (a cross between a blog and a book) on Conversational Leadership. Recently I added this post on "Reframing Questions".
The post was inspired by a good friend of mine Charles Savage who pointed out that some questions I had put together to initiate what I call "big talk" were all about the “individual” and few were about nurturing “community”.
He makes the point:
"We’ve built an economy focused on inspiring/motivating the self-interest of individuals, rather than one where we co-create one another in deeper conversations."
I think Charles has a very powerful insight here.
Clearly, I LOVE all of this stuff Jon. The question of Peter Block's is a great one “ What's the promise we're willing to make with no expectation of return?” It would make a really good Knowledge Café question. We have to move from an individualistic mindset to a community one if our modern day global civilization is to last much longer.
I'm pleased to be here!
I love these questions, or at least the intent / insight behind them too - as I'm not sure all of the questions are quite as helpful from a community perspective as your original ones are from an individual one. Perhaps that just because we do find this a harder way to think given the world we live in. And perhaps it doesn't matter what I think anyway, at least not as much as whether we, as a community (this community, or any other), find them helpful for us!I also like Mintzberg’s ideas on communityship, and Peter Block’s on community too - and Sandra already included this quote of his in one of her month’s updates: “What’s the promise or commitment you’re willing to make, related to why we’re here, with no expectation of return.” I think that’s a great community oriented question too.
And I also think we need to start shifting the level of our questioning to the community, not simply the individual within the community? Eg my suggestion in The Social Organization that we need to start asking ‘what’s in it for us?’, rather than the commonly used / asked 'what’s in it for me?’???
It's so great having you involved in the community David and I hope you'll continue to share more of your wisdom on and around conversations, as I think this is such an important part of a social capital agenda or approach.